Stick with me if you
can. This one's a ride. Ideas grow where you plant them and propagate in an
organized random way.Doing this blogging bit is a little like stuffing a plant into the fine red Philippine soil. You plant one idea and before you know it, you've got another plant poking up over there. And one over here, too.
Things propagate
easily here, whether they be babies or banana trees. I once asked my
agriculturally endowed sister what the definition of a "weed" is.
She said "a
rose in the cornfield is a weed".
Well, we have weeds
and we have roses here, and they all grow like gangbusters. I had to take out
all the ferns because the spores were flying through the air like so many
invisible locusts attacking the Kansas cornfields, producing hives on my wife
and incessant coughing from me and junior.
I've come to the
conclusion recently that Filipinos are not very introspective in a proactive
way. They are introspective in a negative way.
It's that matter of
face again, or thin skin. And cultural values shaped by those political Catholics in their doctrinal house of cards who would suggest psychiatry is a sin. Just turn to Jesus. Or Mary. Or God.
Anywhere but
knowledge.
I like President
Aquino because he is an inward guy. Reflective. Thoughtful. He allows humility
to rise up in a genuine way, rather than arrogance. His arrogance is actually
determination, an insistence on staying the course, no matter the criticisms
that surround him.
And boy do Filipinos
do criticisms well. It is all a part of the interpersonal win/lose battles
taking place in any interpersonal interaction.
People here do naturally what shrinks try desperately to get people to stop
doing.
Judging themselves
based on how others respond.
"No no no Jose", says the shrink. "Others respond differently because they walk
in their own environmental and emotional bubbles. They are not in your bubble.
They have reasons for reacting as they do. Legitimate reasons. Respect them and
their bubbles. Popping them just gets messy."
But here, there
seems to be a need to pop bubbles, to dominate. To win the argument. To cut
down the opponent. To triumph. To demand that he walk in the same bubble.
Which of course is
fruitless and fills the nation with acrimony and envy and bullets.
That's why President
Aquino is an exception. He can walk away from a needless argument. He walks
more like Jesus than the political priests of the CBCP for sure.
I'm guessing the Philippines is
the orphan kid who was whacked upside the head too many times from his
overbearing colonial parent. Filipinos took to heart the shouting and insults
and demands and started figuring they don't measure up.
So, like the 8th kid among 12, one tends to over-reach to try prove one is worth something.
So, like the 8th kid among 12, one tends to over-reach to try prove one is worth something.
I'm thinking that
President Aquino is injecting a healthy dose of self-esteem among Filipinos and
THAT more than jailing President Arroyo will be his lasting legacy.
I praised President
Aquino in a Rappler discussion thread
and another commenter called me a "yellow general".
So there you go.
Give the Filipino a choice of building his nation or tearing it down, way too
many will choose tearing it down. Because then THEY can feel good that they won
the argument by demolishing someone.
Just like that
colonial papa did to them and their self-esteem.
Living the cycle.
Just like in a family.
Brutality begets
brutality. Kindness begets kindness. Ignorance begets ignorance.
Except for those few
who find a way out.
I rather think those
who find a way out do naturally, without psychiatric intervention, that which
is healthy.
They grant others
the right to be themselves. They accept responsibility for their own choices.
They recognize the value of knowledge and the fruitlessness of superstition.
They see the importance of trust and the damage of betrayal. They know the
community is important: the family, the neighborhood, the city, the province,
the nation, the earth. The community is the platform for safety and health and
convenience, if it is done right. From looking at the importance of community,
they learn to give of themselves to others.
No where in that
paragraph is there a need to prove oneself a winner, or to tear someone else
down to avoid being a loser.
Rather like prayer.
I believe you can get right with God in a wordless burst of emotive energy.
Those who do think
about it can certainly help this healthy progression.
That's the press and
the bloggers and the politicians and the leaders. You notice I distinguish
between a politician and a leader. Their drivers differ.
All that these
opinion makers need to do is come to the honest, unspoken, soul-felt realization that
the Philippines is rich with resources and potential and is a place to
cherish, not condemn. It will recast their whole approach to information and
leadership.
Enough digging and
throwing of dirt. Up with planting and building and respecting others. Enough
of the winning and losing, as if life were games rather than serious business.
Up with laughter and humility and honor and the values that lift, rather than crush.
Philippine resources
are the people of good will and honorable intent, intelligent people with love
and generosity in their hearts, land that grows green and abundant, seas that reflect eternity and everlasting
hope in the endless patterns and poundings.
I tell, you folks,
if you would just look within, yourself, privately, and forget what everyone
else is shouting, you'll find a very simple truth.
It's good to be
Filipino.






