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Going by the Rappler mood meter, a good many Filipinos seem to be in a rather Maude-like snit about the harsh treatment being given by Malaysia to the uninvited visitors. It's like Malaysia deems the intruders to be a potential risk to security or even sovereignty in Sabah. Go figure.
This occasions
several thoughts.
- First of all, it demonstrates that Sultan Kiram gave no consideration to others before striking out on his self-enhancing misadventure. I suspect he and Pete Seeger would not get along very well. Read on.
- Second, it confirms that Malaysia is not as advanced as the Philippines at introducing the modern democratic values of a pluralistic society; authoritarianism in Malaysia is heavier on the scale of government motivations than respect for human rights.
- I'm reminded of America jailing her own Japanese citizens during World War II because their race was given more weight in judging their motivations than their citizenship was. That has proved to be among the most embarrassing of American acts because it so conflicts with the idea of equality for all. Malaysia is insecure about her democratic institutions. And perhaps for good reason if the Sultan's attitude is common among residents of Sabah.
- Finally, when Filipinos get frustrated, many blame their President, as if he had the dictatorial or wizardly capability to stop bad things from happening. Next they will want manna from heaven.
Here's Lesson 5, today's session of Psychotherapeutic Counseling for the Democratically Inclined ("PCDI").
Ownership
5.1 Remember that
other people and you are not attached by any strings whatsoever. You do not
control them and they do not control you. What they do is not a reflection on
you and what you do is not a reflection on them. Each operates in a separate
sphere of motives and reasons.
5.2 To
internationalize this and make it relevant to recent events on Sabah, please
recognize that both Malaysia and the Philippines are sovereign states. The
operative word is "sovereign". It
puts legal and ethical exclamation points on the separateness.
- The Philippines does not control Malaysia. Malaysia does not control the Philippines.
5.3 Hopes, wishes,
dreams, hallucinations and prayers are fictions. We fall to the Humpty Dumpty New World Dictionary suitable
for the custom definitions that are appropriate under PCDI instruction.
- Hope (noun): The heart's desire for good things.
- Wish (noun): The brain's desire for good things.
- Dream (noun): A subconscious hallucination.
- Hallucination (noun): A conscious dream.
- Prayer (noun): Hope that God will attend to our insignificant little lives.
5.4 "Ownership" in the PCDI context is the process where one accepts that a decision
has results, and any outcomes arising from a decision go back to that decision.
They do not go elsewhere.
- Example. When a Sultan chooses to intrude with guns into a society that bans such guns, President Aquino did not make that decision. Nor did any other Filipino, unless he or she was a controller and the Sultan agreed to do what that controller decided. Then accountability flows upstream to the controller. President Aquino was not the controller, either.
5.5 Pipedreams are
when hopes, wishes, dreams, hallucinations and prayers come together in the
form of a solution that sounds good, but is wholly irrational. Like the
statement:
- Sabah belongs to the Philippines because of (cite agreement or historical reference that represents a "decision" on the matter).
- President Aquino humiliated us by not (cite the decisions he did not make, that you, in his predicament, would have made).
- President Aquino needs to fix this by (cite the steps you would take to right the Sabah ship, which is listing strongly to port and starboard at the same time . That's really bad.)
Then go back and
determine what percentage of the people in Sabah agree with you.
5.6 There is a
difference between land, which can be titled, and personal allegiance, which is
a conscious decision by people to be governed as they see fit. Allegiance cannot be titled and transferred as
if it were a box of socks inherited from grandpa.
5.7 The healthy,
democratic Filipino conveys to his/her duly elected President full right and authority to
act on his/her behalf. He does not deny responsibility
for his vote. When the "other guy" wins, he is big enough to recognize that others are entitled to a voice, and he backs the process result. For his nation.
5.8 The takeaways from today's session that you should meditate on at least once a day for a year are:
- Accept responsibility for what you can control, and accept what you cannot. Learn to distinguish between the two.
- Don't give others the power to define your well-being. Take charge yourself. Don't whine, beg, apologize or make excuses, as that transfers power to others.
- Don't assign responsibility to others for your hopes, wishes, dreams, hallucinations and prayers. They are operating in the real world. Don't expect them to take up your fictions.
- It is lunatic to expect others, like Presidents for example, to exercise bad decisions to take care of your hallucinations. Like the Philippines taking Sabah "because it is ours". It is simply not going to happen.
- Chill. Let go of it. Get yourself free of irrational wishes, of unfulfillable hopes. It is simply not worth the energy.
- You can control who you vote for and what music to play.
WHERE HAVE ALL THE FLOWERS GONE
words and music by Pete Seeger
performed by Pete Seeger and Tao Rodriguez-Seeger
Where have all the flowers gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the flowers gone?
Long time ago
Where have all the flowers gone?
Girls have picked them every one
When will they ever learn?
When will they ever learn?
Where have all the young girls gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the young girls gone?
Long time ago
Where have all the young girls gone?
Taken husbands every one
When will they ever learn?
When will they ever learn?
Where have all the young men gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the young men gone?
Long time ago
Where have all the young men gone?
Gone for soldiers every one
When will they ever learn?
When will they ever learn?
Where have all the soldiers gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the soldiers gone?
Long time ago
Where have all the soldiers gone?
Gone to graveyards every one
When will they ever learn?
When will they ever learn?
Where have all the graveyards gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the graveyards gone?
Long time ago
Where have all the graveyards gone?
Covered with flowers every one
When will we ever learn?
When will we ever learn?
©1961 (Renewed) Fall River Music Inc
All Rights Reserved.
words and music by Pete Seeger
performed by Pete Seeger and Tao Rodriguez-Seeger
Where have all the flowers gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the flowers gone?
Long time ago
Where have all the flowers gone?
Girls have picked them every one
When will they ever learn?
When will they ever learn?
Where have all the young girls gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the young girls gone?
Long time ago
Where have all the young girls gone?
Taken husbands every one
When will they ever learn?
When will they ever learn?
Where have all the young men gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the young men gone?
Long time ago
Where have all the young men gone?
Gone for soldiers every one
When will they ever learn?
When will they ever learn?
Where have all the soldiers gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the soldiers gone?
Long time ago
Where have all the soldiers gone?
Gone to graveyards every one
When will they ever learn?
When will they ever learn?
Where have all the graveyards gone?
Long time passing
Where have all the graveyards gone?
Long time ago
Where have all the graveyards gone?
Covered with flowers every one
When will we ever learn?
When will we ever learn?
©1961 (Renewed) Fall River Music Inc
All Rights Reserved.